CAUSE OF ANGER

Friends !
         Before we analyze causes of anger, it seems logical to know about it. Anger is the general term for a sudden violent displeasure. Fury, indignation and rage may be thought close to anger. Rage is vehement anger. Indignation implies deep and justified anger, for example: indignation at cruelty or against corruption. Fury is rage so great that it resembles insanity. Anger causes resentment, exasperation, irritation, displeasure, infuriation, insanity and madness. A person in anger loses his thinking power and a person devoid of thinking power can go to any extent. Any right or wrong thing or act can be expected from him. Therefore, it is absolutely necessary to have control over anger.

On analyzing the behavior of human beings, we can classify human behaviors in following three broad categories:

(i) Persons who live balanced and peaceful life. These persons are knowledgeable persons. They are kind to all creatures. They are harmless creatures and are free from all types of vices. They have conquered their desires. They live ascetic life.

(ii) Persons who are ambitious and have lot of expectations and strong desires. They are always worried for results in their favor. They have strong feeling of attachment for their own. They are lustful, passionate and impulsive.

(iii) Persons who are lazy, who look (or behave like) mad and who have no control over their sleep. They are bullheaded. They believe in phantasm, delusion and illusion. Their acts suffer lack of knowledge.

We can assign each class a name. In holy Geeta, while addressing Arjun, Lord Krishna has referred to these classes of properties as Sato Gun, Rajo Gun and Tamo Gun. These properties have been referred to as properties of nature. At any moment, a person reflects properties of one of these classes in his acts. Properties of nature referred to in clause (i) above may be referred to as divine features. Properties of nature referred to in clause (iii) above may be referred to as devilish features. Properties referred to in clause (ii) above lie in between them.

At any moment in our life, we live one of three properties of nature, viz. sato gun, rajo gun and tamo gun (sat, raj & tam). We all know that particular type of behavior of a person is not permanent and everlasting. A person, who, at certain point of time, has been living tamo properties of nature, may behave as if he owns sato properties. Likewise, a person, who, at certain point of time, has been living rajo properties of nature, may behave as if he owns tamo properties. Sometimes, change in behavior is permanent. Person, who has been living properties of one class for a long time, can change his behavior for remaining span of his life. We have read story of Angulimala, the robber and murderer who later became a saint. We also know that Maharshi Valmiki, in his early period of life, had been a robber but in his latter life he became a great saint who composed the pious book Ramayana.

Feeling of anger is associated with Rajo gun. Person who cultivates sato property of nature has depth in his nature. Such person never gets excited. On analyzing the behavior of human beings, we find that anger arises on account of one of the following:

(i) A person has done something which we had not expected from him; or

(ii) A person has failed to perform any act as per our expectation.

Looking into the causes of anger, we can say that our expectations are sole cause of our anger. This feature is associated with rajo gun. In order to get rid of anger, we have to adopt sato gun. Person owning sato gun lives a balanced life. He has depth in his nature. He has no expectations. But in our modern life it is hard to believe that one can do without expectations. When we set our targets or goals and fail to achieve them, then what we feel is not anger. It is desperation. In this case we do not get excited. We do not lose our temper. But where we expect something from our others and they fail to deliver the desired result we get excited with anger. But we can avoid anger if we are kindhearted and we believe in forgiving. There may be cases where one may feel that his associate has done wrong deliberately. In such cases, it may be difficult but it is not impossible to avoid anger.

Suppose that your close associate does not follow your directions in performing a particular act but he / she acts on his / her own and by doing so spoils the wrath. This may be a reason of anger. But this can also be avoided by considering his / her ignorance. At one place, he / she does not know that he / she is expected to obey you and at the same time he / she does not know the proper way of performing the act. On account of his / her ignorance, he /she deserves sympathy. He / she must be forgiven.

Mahatma Gandhi has rightly said “Hate the sin not the sinner”. It is also believed that “Love the sinner, hate the sin” is a saying from holy Bible. Readers will forgive me if I am wrong. I am totally in favor of the saying “hate the sin not the sinner”. My view is that sinner commits wrong because he / she is ignorant about the sin. Sinner does not understand that it is wrong to commit a sin. He / she does not know that he / she should abstain from committing a sin. Therefore, he / she deserves sympathy. In stead of showing our anger, we should feel pity on him /her.

Unfair assessment of capabilities of our associate may be another cause of anger. Sometimes, we do not assess the capability of a person and expect him to do a certain act. If performance requires A grade knowledge but the performer possesses B grade (lower than A grade) knowledge, then we should not expect that performer will do the act properly. Similarly, an act done by a child should not be evaluated by comparing it with the act performed by a young person. We should give margin for short experience and lack of knowledge. If we expect then we should expect and we should assess the result considering these aspects.

Lack of our tolerance limit may be another cause for anger. In order to avoid anger, we should -

(i) avoid expectations and if those cannot be avoided then they should be based on fair assessment of capabilities of the person from whom we expect;

(ii) enlarge our tolerance limit;

(iii) cultivate habit of forgiveness.

We are human being and we have been blessed with enormous power to fight evils. Lord will not forgive us if we do not use these powers in improving our nature.

Immortal Things in Mortal Lives: THE MANN

Immortal Things in Mortal Lives: THE MANN

Immortal Things in Mortal Lives: GEETA FOR US

Immortal Things in Mortal Lives: GEETA FOR US

THE MANN

In shlok (verse) 7 of chapter 15 of Shrimad Bhagavat Geeta, mann has been referred to as sixth sense in our human body. In our lives ‘mann’ can be considered as power of imagination. But the mann cannot be thought simple the power of imagination. It is above all our karmendriyan. It travels faster than anything. Where we want to visualize any object or person which or who is not before us, the mann creates several editions of such object or person. In our practical lives, we have to decide our targets and have to make plans. These actions need fancy power as well as cool thinking. Part of thinking is associated with our mind. Acts, which do not involve application of mind, cannot be categorized as planning or fixing of target.  

Where mann is not controlled by the brain, imagination becomes a mere fancy. It gives birth to expectations. When expectations are not fulfilled, mann gives birth to all evils including ‘kaam’, ‘krodh’ and ‘lobh’.  This is the sole cause of anger. In anger a person loses himself to the extent that he may commit serious offences. Whatever is found attractive by our eyes, the mann gets easily fascinated with such persons or things. Thereafter, without going into practical aspect, mann gives birth to expectations. These expectations may include possession and enjoyment. Failure in expectations results in sorrows and sadness and sometimes inspires a person for committing severe  offences without considering the consequences.

One cannot do without mann. What is desired is that mann should not be left alone. It should be under control of our brain.

GEETA FOR US

When mother conceives a child, child comes in contact with nature comprised of ‘sat’, ‘raj’ and ‘tam’. These relate to sato-gun, rajo-gun and tamo-gun. Every human being, at all moments in his life, cultivates any of these.

It is not true that a person who has once cultivated ‘tam’ cannot switch over to ‘sat’. There are several examples of persons who, in their earlier parts of lives, had been cultivating ‘tam’ but in later part of their lives they switched over to ‘sat’ and throughout their remaining lives, they cultivated ‘sat’. Shrimad Bhagvat Geeta teaches us how to dispel the dark and how to attain the light. Person who cultivates ‘sat’ is called divine and a person who cultivates ‘tam’ is called devilish.

On this auspicious day of Lord Krishna Janmaashtami, I will like to cite here few shloks (verses) from pious Geeta to point out difference in between person owning divine nature and a person owning devilish nature.

Shloks 1 to 3 of chapter 16 of the Geeta run as follows:

Abhaym satva-sanshudhirgyaanyogvyavashthitih.

Daanm damashch yagyashch swaadhyaaystap aarjavam. (1)

Ahimsa satyamkrodhastyagah shantirpaishunam.

Dayaa bhuteshvaloluptvam maardavam heerchaplam. (2)

Tejah kshamaa dhrutih shouchmadroho naatimaanitaa.

Bhawanti sampadam daivimbhijatasya Bharat. (3)

In these three verses, Lord Krishna address Arjun as Bharat and tells him that nirbhayata, aatmshuddhi, adhyaatmak gyaan ka anushilan, daan, aatm-sanyam, yagyaparaayanataa, vedaadhyan, tapashya, saralataa, ahimsa, satyata, krodhvihinata, tyaag, shaanti, chhidranveshan mein aruchi, samast jeevon par karunaa, lobhavihinata, bhadrataa, lajja, sankalp, tej, kshamaa, dhairya, pavitrataa, irshya aur samman ki abhilashaa se mukti divya gun hain, jo daivi prukriti se sampan devtulya purushon mein paye jaate hain.

In shlok 4 of chapter 16 of the Geeta, Lord describes a person cultivating devilish features. The shlok runs as under :

Dambho darpoabhimaanashch krodhah paarushyameva cha.

Agyaanm chaabhijaatasya Parth sampadmaasureem.

Meanings: dambh, darp, abhimaan, krodh, kathorataa tathaa agyaan aasuri swabhaav waalon ke gun hain.

It cannot be thought that a person can own all divine qualities at once. For cultivating and owning these qualities, one has to win over Idriya vishay, man and buddhi and theirafter, has to listen to the voice of soul. Gradually a person can own all these qualities.

MARRIED LIFE NEEDS ADJUSTMENTS

जीवन साथी का चयन करते समय आप अपने होने वाले जीवन साथी से साथ -साथ चलने का वादा करते हैं। व्यवहारिक सत्य यह है की आपका जीवन साथी अगर कुछ धीमी गति से चलता है और आप तेज गति से चलते हैं या फिर इसके विपरीत सत्य है तब आप दोनों तब तक साथ नहीं चल सकते जब तक तेज चलने वाला अपनी गति कुछ कम नहीं करता और धीमी गति से चलने वाला अपनी गति कुछ तेज नहीं करता । सुखमय वैवाहिक जीवन के लिए आपसी ताल - मेल और सामंजस्य आवश्यक हैं।

LOGIC MAKES US MATURE

We often take wrong decisions in absence of application of logic. Without application of logic our capacity to take correct decision is always equal to decision taking capacity of an innocent child who cannot differentiate in between right and wrong.

विश यू अ वैरी-वैरी हैप्पी न्यू इयर

Hi Friends,
           I wish you and this entire world a very-very happy, prosperous and tension free New Year 2010. May God bless His creation on this Earth with feeling of "Vishwa vasudhaiva kutumbakam". विश्व वसुधैव कुटुम्बकम।
    On this day, we would like to draw your kind attention towards following shloka (verse) from Shrimad Bhagwad-Geeta:-
योगस्थ कुरु कर्माणि संगम त्वक्त्वा धनञ्जय। 
सिद्धयैसिद्धयो समो भूत्वा समत्वम योग उच्यते।।
Yogastha kuru karmaani sangam twaktwaa dhananjay,
Sidhyaisidhyo samo bhutwaa samatwam yoga uchyate.

      O Arjun ! Leave aside the fear of victory or defeat. Have a neutral feeling towards both of them. Don’t think of victory or defeat, success or failure. Be balanced and perform your acts without being disturbed or perplexed by feeling of victory or defeat, success or failure. Such state (state of performing acts, maintaining a balance) is called yoga.

Friends !

            It is difficult for me to explain the verses of Geeta in their true sense. Neither I understand Sanskrit language properly nor I own mental status to understand the underlying philosophy. Hence, it is also difficult for me to appreciate verses in true sense. Hope you kind people will forgive me for my all faults. What I could understand is:
Yoga is not for thee who dies of hunger,
And is not for thee who takes over much.
Yoga is not for thee who awakes all the time,
And is not for thee who sleeps over much. 
Yoga is for thee who is balanced at every step in life, in walking, waking, talking, taking, sleeping, …

         In critical cases of operations performed on a human body, a surgeon knows that patient may also die, but without worrying about death performs operation. So one must behave like a surgeon in all his actions. Mitro (Friends)! Apart from physical pains, most of the human beings are suffering from tension, worry and dissatisfaction. Somebody has aptly remarked “Murde ko chitaa jalaati hai, jeete ko chintaa khaati hai.” (Dead bodies are burnt on pyre whereas living persons are eaten by worries). What has been said is that worry is worse than a pyre. Pyre destroys dead bodies whereas worry destroys living bodies.

       Have you ever thought about causes of tension, worry and dissatisfaction? In my considered opinion, our expectations and attachments are the only causes. These give birth to tension, worry and dissatisfaction. By attachment I mean “mine", " yours” (teraa-meraa).

     On this occasion of New Year Day, once again I wish you and this entire world a tension free, worriless and a life full of satisfaction. It is upto you to think about the manner and the way you can fight and conquer these enemies.
      I wish to be back soon, but I can’t promise. I again wish a very-very happy, prosperous and tension free New Year to all.

With thanks and regards,
Keshav Dayal

MY SILLY THOUGHTS -3

People having perverse thinking may also commit mistakes unknowingly. When such people commit mistakes unknowingly, they do not agree that they have committed a mistake. In all other cases, people commit mistakes unknowingly. In those cases, they are ignorant towards mistakes committed by them.
There may be two causes of committing mistakes unknowingly. In one case, person knows what is right and what is wrong, but he performs a thing without analyzing the thing done with an eye of an impartial critic. One can say that such thing has been done without giving a proper thought. In second case, the person does not have knowledge of doing a particular thing properly. In this case, one can say that thing has been done without having proper knowledge. In first case, the person, who has committed a mistake, needs impartial critic eye and in second case, he needs a teacher who can point out his mistake and may impart him with correct way of performing a particular thing.
There is no difficulty in identifying an impartial critic eye and a true teacher. Where you have committed a mistake without analyzing right or wrong, after the critic draws your attention, you get satisfied. Where you have committed a mistake without knowing the correct way of doing it, after the critic gives its suggestion, you can experience it by acting upon the suggestion and can see outcome.
Unless you have perverse thinking, you always need an impartial critic eye who can point out your mistakes and a teacher who can tell your mistakes and impart you with proper knowledge. So there is nothing to lose your temper when somebody, without having perverse thinking, points out your mistakes and /or tells you the way of doing a thing properly.

MY SILLY THOUGHTS-2

(1)

IF YOU EXPECT THAT OTHER PEOPLE SHOULD ADMIRE AND RESPECT YOU, YOU SHOULD PAY ATTENTION TO LIKINGS AND DISLIKINGS OF SUCH OTHER PEOPLE. YOU CANNOT EARN ADMIRATION AND COMMAND RESPECT FROM OTHERS BY THRUSTING UPON THEM YOUR OWN UNCOMMON AND UNCONCERNED LIKINGS AND DISLIKINGS.

(2)

IF YOU EXPECT LOVE AND AFFECTION OF YOUR ELDERS FOR YOU, YOU SHOULD GIVE THEM A MOMENT OF HAAPINESS AND AFFORD AN OPPORTUNITY TO FEEL PROUD OF YOU.

KESHAV DAYAL

NOBLE WAY OF PASSING LIESURE

Friends!
Have you ever thought that for passing your leisure there can be a way which, apart from giving pleasure and happiness to you, can also provide happiness and pleasure to others too. If you have not thought in this direction till now, then would you please like to think about such a way?

Mitron!
Kyaa aapne kabhee sochaa hai ki aapake phursat ke chhana gujaarane kaa koi tarikaa aisaa bhee ho sakataa hai jo aapko aanand aur khushee dene ke saath-saath auron ko bhee aanand aur khushee de sakataa hai. Agar aaapane is dishaa mein abhee tak nahin sochaa hai to kyaa aap sochanaa chaahenge?

Another Way to Acknowledge God

Have you ever looked on the lines of your palm and capillaries or ridges on thumb and fingers of your hand? They are unique. Some of us are well educated today and are capable of putting our signatures in different ways but, at several places we are asked to give our fingerprints or thumb impressions. Police and other investigating agencies lift fingerprints for the purpose of evidence and courts take cognizance of such fingerprints. Similar is the case with lines and mounts found on our palms. There are a large number of ridges or capillaries on palms of our hands.
All persons, who were born on this earth and are no more, had their own palms; all persons, who are alive today, have their own palms; and by precedence, all those persons who will be born in future will have their unique palms. Is anybody capable of counting number of all such persons? Have you ever thought about human’s capability of designing such innumerable structures? Are we capable of keeping account of all palms? In my personal opinion, we can’t design such innumerable structures and we cannot keep account of all such palms. But certainly there is somebody who keeps account of all such palms and always designs a new palm for every child to come. This is what compels me to acknowledge the infinite capability of our Creator.
Like capillaries or ridges in our fingers and thumbs, there are other capillaries. Amazingly, there are some prominent lines on palm of our hand. Definitely, these lines have not been created because of folds of our palm and they also do not give support to our palm. Then what for these lines are on our hands? According to size and shape of palms and fingers, hands can be classified in four categories.
(i) broad, square palms and fingers: The length of the palm from wrist to the bottom of the fingers is usually equal to the length of the fingers;
(ii) square or rectangular palms with long fingers: The length of the palm from wrist to the bottom of the fingers is usually less than the length of the fingers;
(iii) long (sometimes oval-shaped) palm, with long, flexible, conical fingers: The length of the palm from wrist to the bottom of the fingers is usually less than the width across the widest part of the palm, and usually equal to the length of the fingers.-; and
(iv) square or rectangular palm and shorter fingers: The length of the palm from wrist to the bottom of the fingers is usually greater than the length of the fingers.
Had lines on hand been for the purpose of providing folds or support, it would have been possible to classify them in four broad categories. But it is not so. Many of us believe that our character and future are recorded in these lines. If it so, then it is secret for us. Everybody cannot read such lines. May be that we do not understand the language used by our Creator. Palmistry is an art in which a practitioner reads an individual’s fortune or tells something about his/her character by viewing his/her palms. The practitioner uses the lines marks, and patterns to determine the person’s fate or give them insight into their personality. Palmistry is also known by other names such as chiromancy, chiromancy, palm reading, chirology, and hand analysis. The practitioners are often referred to as palm readers, chiromancers, palmists, or chirologists. The history of palmistry dates back thousands of years. Archaeologists have discovered stone, wood, and ivory hands carved that date back to ancient civilizations, so we know man has always been fascinated with the hand.
A palm reader looks at the lines and marks on palm to dictate the various aspects of individual’s life. Hands of course vary from person to person, but most include these three important lines:
The Heart Line– details ones love life as well as emotions and events that predict his/her ability to love and be loved. It is found towards the top of the palm, under the fingers. In some traditions, the line is read as starting from the edge of the palm under the little finger and flowing across the palm towards the thumb; in others, it is seen as starting under the fingers and flowing toward the outside edge of the palm. Palmists interpret this line to represent matters of the heart, both physical and metaphorical, and believe it can indicate emotional stability, romantic perspectives, depression, and stoicism, in addition to various aspects of cardiac health
Line of Life- represents a person’s liveliness, drive, physical health, and well-being; however it is not an indicator of how long someone will live. This line starts at the edge of the palm under the index finger and flows across the palm towards the outside edge. Often, the head line is joined with the life line (see below) at inception. Palmists generally interpret this line to represent the person's mind and the way it works, including learning style, communication style, intellectualism, and thirst for knowledge. It is also believed to indicate a preference for creative or analytical approaches to information
Line of Head– defines how one approaches life, including philosophies, beliefs, learning styles, and desire for knowledge. This line extends from the edge of the palm above the thumb and travels in an arc towards the wrist. This line is believed to represent the person's vitality and vigor, physical health, physical injuries and general well being.
Amazingly, in my own case, in palms of my both hands, in place of three lines viz. the line of heart, the line of life and the line of head, there are only two lines. One of them starts from one side of the palm in between my thumb and index finger and ends on opposite side of the palm. Thus, the line divides my palm in two halves and is deep rooted. Second line, after traveling some distance with first line, curves downwards towards my wrist in the shape of an arc. Till date I have not met a person having such lines in both palms of his/her hand.
There may also be other lines on our palm e.g. Line of fate, line of marriage, line of Marsh, line of mercury, line of intuition, line of fame, etc. Apart from lines, there are mounts (bumps) on every palm. These mounts are associated with specific features of our character. Each finger and various segments of a finger are also meaningful and they are associated with our inner powers, interests and our inclinations towards various arts.
Palmistry is a complete science in it and needs close and long study. Only theoretical knowledge is not sufficient. These lines vary from hand to hand. A practitioner, before starting practice, has to read various palms of known persons and events in their lives.
It is important to note that sometimes reading of a particular line is not complete without reading effect of other lines and mounts. So, before, correct prediction can be made, it becomes necessary to read other lines and mounts and their effect on such line. For example, if life line indicates some danger or physical injury in life at any stage, then it becomes necessary to read existence and nature of line of Marsh at that stage and/or line of mercury. Line of Marsh is thought to be secondary or auxiliary line of life.
A best way to read a palm is to take printout of palm. We should wash the hand to be read with soap and thereafter should apply paint on it with printing ink. On a white sheet of paper we should take printout of palm by putting our hand downwards and our palm facing downwards. We should press the hand with our other hand and if needed we should put eight folded handkerchief over our hand and then we should apply pressure with our other hand. This will give us clear picture of palm lines and location of mounts on our palm. Reading should be done with the help of magnifying glass. Reader should devote full time and should arrive at some result after composite reading of all lines and mounts as well as other aspects.
AVOID ROADSIDE READING OF PALM: What we mean by roadside reading of palm? It may mean incomplete reading, reading with insufficient knowledge of the subject or a casual reading. From the description I have given, you may infer that I have read some books on palmistry. Well it is correct. Knowing this, anybody may stretch his hand before me and may request me to tell him about his future. This may happen even when I visit my friend at his house. If I start telling him something immediately on looking his palm, then it is roadside reading of palm. Firstly, though I admit that I have read some books on palmistry yet I cannot predict incidents correctly because I have not practiced the art of palm reading. For correct predictions, somebody needs practical knowledge. Secondly, I cannot predict correctly unless I read effect of other lines and mounts on a particular line.
When I was doing my B.Sc., out of my curiosity, I decided to know about my future on the basis of lines in my hand. There was a palm reader sitting on one side of the road and people were asking there questions. I also stopped there and when my turn came, I stretched my hand before him. You know what he had told me was that there was no higher education (on being asked what he meant by higher education, he told me post graduation) in my hand and I was suffering from tuberculosis. He also predicted my death at the age of 25 years. Hearing all this I withdrew my hand and walked away without taking any note of predictions made by him. Contrary to his predictions, I am post graduate and I have never suffered from tuberculosis. I have left 25 years stage well behind me. So please don’t go for roadside reading of palm and before consulting any palmist, know about his practical knowledge. Before you consult some palmist, it is better to have some theoretical knowledge. Art is wide spread and is practiced world over. Several books are available on the subject and there are several institutes which provide education on the subject.

Here I am not publicizing various aspects of palmistry. My object behind all this is to draw attention of people towards the Supreme Power. Who has written our future in our hands? It can be done by only that power which knows all about us. Is there somebody who knows about future of all of us? Certainly, there is no such person from amongst us, because none of us has got such capability. All this is beyond human powers. Ultimately, we have to admit some Supreme power.

Is Religion by Birth?

Forgive me for my sins


In the article to follow, I have neither intended to hurt feelings nor intended to weaken the faith or belief in Almighty of any person belonging to any particular religion, sect, caste or creed. If I have said any thing which appears to be wrong or incorrect, it is because of my ignorance towards the reality and has come out because of the devil sitting in me who overpowers me to think like this and makes me restless till we express the ideas to other friends of mine.

After all we are human beings born with divine and devilish features in us। That is why a person who behaves like a noble person at some particular moment, the same person behaves like an animal at some other moment. That is why we feel anger, express hate towards others and administer cruelty. So please forgive me for my sins.



Is Religion By Birth?



What constitutes a religion? In my personal opinion, most probably, our faith and belief in God, our customs and traditions are constituents of our religion. There is nothing which prevents a person from switching over from one set of these constituents to new set of such constituents.

Initially, a newly born child finds its religion from its parents and if parents change their religion, religion of the child also gets changed. Well, we can say that there is no religion of its own for a newly born innocent child. Faith and belief in God, customs and traditions are inherited by it. In case of adoption of a child, where a child is adopted by a person, belonging to a religion different from the religion of its parents, person adopting the child gives its own faith and belief in God, customs and traditions to the child. Such religion continues to be religion of the child till it becomes able to understand the religion and till it does not change its religion.

What happens when a person having faith in some particular religion adopts a new religion? He gets rid of earlier concept of God, customs and traditions; and expresses his faith and belief in new concept of God, customs and traditions. Religion gurus help him in getting social recognition in the new society. All this happens in the manner: “Vasanshi jeernani yatha vihay nevani gruhiyati naroparani” in the manner a man, discarding his old clothes, wears new clothes. Today, inter-religion marriages are also getting recognition. In that case also, religion of either male or female is changed. A person can change its religion even if there is no social recognition.

What is expected from a person in his particular capacity is also referred to as its religion. For example: religion of a warrior, religion of a student, etc. This is temporary phase of life but it reminds us that religion is by cultivation.

Suppose that a person, claiming to belong to a particular religion, acts in contravention of principles laid down in such religion, then can it be said that he is follower of that particular religion? In my opinion, it will be wrong to address him follower of that religion. Suppose, a person, born in a family which had been follower of religion “X”, acts in contravention of religion “X” but in accordance with principles laid down in another religion “Y”. On his death, followers of religion “X” dispose off his dead body in the manner laid down in religion “X”, can it be said that dead person had followed religion “X”? Most probably not, because those were the followers, of religion “X”, who acted in the manner laid down in religion “X”. Had the dead body been able to take decision about manner of its disposal, it is just possible that it would have preferred religion “Y”. My inference is that religion of a person must be recognized by acts and deeds of such person. I mean to say, the religion, which supports his acts and deeds, should be treated as religion of such person. That is why at one place, I have expressed my views about my religion as follows:

There is a limited religion for me and preaching of my religion are those which are defined or described by my acts and deeds.

One should pay full respect to religious books, but it does not mean that religious books are to be worshiped like statue of God. In my opinion, even if I read a particular religious book daily, I cannot claim that I follow the principles laid down in that religious book. Religion is to be cultivated and not to be read only. A foreigner comes in India and during his stay in India, he studies religious books relating to sanatan dharma, can he claim that he is follower of sanatan dharma? No, he cannot say himself to be follower of sanatan dharma unless he adopts and follows principles laid down in those books. Barring those few people whose duty is to study and memorize the religious books, (with my apology to all) I hate those persons who read religious books daily but do not incorporate the principles laid down in those religious books in their daily lives. They are like a foreigner quoted above. This was the feeling which compelled me to write:

Yadi dharma granthon ke pennon par likhe sidhhanton per prayog ka faruaa na chalaya gayaa, to dharma dharma na rahker ek kalaa aaveran hai jiske peechhe Bhagvan ka naam baar baar lene waaley vyakti manav nahin, aapes mein takaraate nirajeev shilakhand hain jinhen mai apanen visheshadhikar athava anadhikar chestaa se dharma ki nindaa kernaa athava makhaul uraanaa adi sangyaayen hi detaa hoon.



If we do not cultivate religion by doing spade work on what is written on pages of our religious books then religion has got no meaning for us, it is just like a black curtain before us behind which there are inanimate rattling stones creating noise and not human beings pronouncing repeatedly name of God. I, with my special right or in an unauthorized manner, call their act as their disrespect for religion or as making of mockery of religion by them.

As it relates to my faith and belief in God, I can neither describe my God nor know my God. Truly speaking, I cannot even tell every thing about any person because I can in no manner know what is going on in the mind of such other person. I am not his closest friend. I have expressed my this feeling as under:

Yadi tum apane ko saadhu kahate ho toa mai tumhein eisaaa maanene se inkaar nahin kartaa, kintu mai apani ore se tumhen saadhu bhee nahin kahataa kyonki meri apeksha tum apane bare mein adhik jaankaar ho.

If you claim to be a saint, I accept it but I do not address you a saint from my side because you know better about you than I.

God is our Creator and we all are among His creations. We even do not know all about ourselves, then how we can know all about other creations of God. Secondly, His capability is not limited only to creativity of all. Thirdly, creator is always greater than its creation. Our capabilities are limited and also we do not know even about our capabilities. In these circumstances, how one can expect from us to say some thing about God. What all can we say is that He is omnipresent and omnipotent and we can only express our faith and belief in God.

As it relates to His omnipresence, His omnipresence is not limited to any worship place. His omnipresence is such that follower of religion “X”, who believes in His omnipresence, also finds His God in worship places built by followers of Religion “Y” because worship places built by followers of religion “Y” are not the places outside the purview of omnipresence. Therefore, it is essential that followers of religion “X” should also see their God in the worship places built by followers of religion “Y”. If we assume that God of the followers of religion “X” also resides in worship place built by followers of religion “Y”, then worship place built by followers of religion “Y” is abode of God of followers of religion “X”. Then how followers of religion “X” can demolish abode of their God and if they do so, then they do not believe in omnipresence of God and their act is against their religion. Therefore, they cannot be said to be followers of religion “X”.

karmanyevadhikaraste ...

KARMANYEVADHIKARASTE ......

       GEETA IS NOT TO BE WORSHIPPED, IT IS TO BE CULTIVATED. It explains life, soul, duty, karma, gyan and so many other things and aspects which are closely related to our life. It can be read at any time, but to understand it, it needs concentration and attention. Even a person, who has not taken a bath, can read Geeta, Geeta can be read even if you are traveling. Followers of any religion may read Geeta. For these and so many other reasons, it has been called Universal Mother. It is the Geeta which says do the task because it is better to do a task than not to do any task. Geeta speaks about performing of task (duty) appointed by ones nature. It is the Geeta which propounds the theory of karma without expectation of result because expectation is the sole cause of sorrows and unhappiness.
       Srimad Bhagwat Geeta is part of great epic Mahabharat. The battle of Mahabharat was fought in between forces of Pandawas and Kaurawas. Arjun was one of the Pandwas. Arjun very well knew that Mahabharat was being fought for justice. But there were certain illusions in his mind.? In the battle field when Arjun found that army of Kaurawas was consisting of his own brothers, teachers and elders, he felt desperate due to his attachment and associations with his own brothers, teachers and elders to whom he had always paid respect. He thought that by killing them he would commit a sin. After killing them he did not want to enjoy kingdom. Then Lord Krishna explained to Arjuna about temporary phase of happiness and sorrows and about immortal feature of soul. He explains that soul is independent of birth and death and it is the body which perishes on death. Soul can not be destroyed. Lord Krishna enlightened him with karm yoga, Gyan Yoga, Bhakti Yoga, saankhya yoga and so many other yogas. Shri Krishna explained to Arjun the cause of sorrows and unhappiness. He told him that these were due to involvement of human being ?in expectations (expectation of result). ?He explained him how one could be free from sorrows. He preached about karm and result in the following Shlok 47 of Chapter- 2 of the Geeta.
   Karmanyevaadhikarastey maa phaleshu kadachan.
Maa karmaphalheturbhuurma tey sangoastwakarmani.
Explanation: Tumhen apanaa karm (duty) karane ka adhikaar hai, kintu karm ke phalon ke adhikari nahin ho. Tun na toh kabhi apane aapako apane karmon ke phalon ka kaaran mano, na hi karam na karane mein kabhi aashakta hoao.
        You are authorized to perform your duty but you are not entitled for result of your doings. Neither you consider yourself the cause of your doings nor have faith in not doing your duty.
         Most of the people easily assimilate the meaning of karmanyevaadhikarastey, but most of them get confused about the words maa phaleshu kadachana. One should understand that if we correlate ‘result of karm’ with ‘karm’, then we are bound to have expectations and when result will not come as per expectations, sorrow is inevitable.? So in order to avoid sorrow, karm phal (result of karm) and karm are to be treated independent. They require dissociation.
    Let us assume that a student works hard before he appears in an examination. After examination is over, he expects that he should secure 75% marks. When result comes he finds that he has secured only 60% marks. Even if achievement of 60% is to be considered good achievement, the student will not be satisfied. It is but natural that the student will be unsatisfied and this dissatisfaction will be cause of his sadness. On the other hand another student works hard before he appears in the examination. Whenever somebody asks him about his expectation, he says I have done my job.? Whatever the result comes is not my concern. This student also secures 60% marks. He feels happy about his result because 60% is a good achievement. So in order to be satisfied, one has to reduce its expectations to zero. Then whatever will be the result, it always will be either to our expectation or more than our expectation. We can reduce our expectations to zero only if we do our duty and forget about outcome of the duty. Another way of reducing our expectation may be that we should sacrifice work done by us. In that case we know that we have done no work (because work done by us has been sacrificed), then in the normal course our expectation will be zero.
       Here it is to be noticed that first line of the shlok is not to be read in exclusion. Otherwise, in absence of karm (where we do not perform our duty) our expectation will also be zero. In the second line of the shlok it has been specifically said that one should not ignore karm. On the other hand even if we, without expectation, correlate the achievement with any karm, we will not succeed in dissociating of karm with result of karm.
    To follow the theory laid down in above referred shlok, it is essential to understand the meanings of the word karm. Usually karm refers to any kind of act. It is an admitted fact that none can stand actionless at any moment till his last breath. Even when a person sleeps he does a karm. Breathing in itself is a karm. This is evident from shlok-5 of Chapter-3 of the Geeta. This shlok runs as under:
             Na hi kashchitkshanamapi jatu aatisthatyakarmakrut.
             Karytey hyavashah karm saravah prakrutijairgunaih.
Explanation: pratyek vyakti ko prakruti se arjit gunon ke anusaar wivasha hokar karm karanaa padataa hai, atah koi bhi ek kshana ke liye bhi binaa karm kiye nahin raha sakataa.
       Every person has to perform its duty in accordance with its nature. No person can stand actionless even for a single moment.
       Then it becomes matter of concern what does the word karm refers to. Here one can think of three things, karm (swadharm), vikarm and akarm. Karm refers to an act which is expected from any person in the specific situation in which he is. For example if one is student then his swadharm is the religion of a student consisting of all those acts which are expected from a student, if somebody is a doctor then his swadharm is the religion of a doctor consisting of all those acts which are expected from a doctor. Karm is an act for which person has right to perform. Vikarm is the act for which a person is not authorized by its nature to do it. Akarm refers to the state in which a person does not perform its karm. So definitely karm refers to ones duty according to ones nature.
       Without karm, we cannot even earn our livelihood. Therefore, karm is essential for life. Shlok -8 of Chapter-3 of the Geeta runs as follows:
           Niyatam kuru karm twam karmjyaayo hyakarmanah.
           shariryatrapi ch tey na prasidhyedakarmanah.
        Apana niyat karm karo, kyonki karm na karane ki apeksha karm karana shrestha hai. Karm ke bina toh sharir nirwah bhi nahin ho sakata.

        Do your task appointed by your nature, it is better to go for karm than remaining without karm. Without karm, life cannot even go on.

Yagyarthatkarmanoanyatra lokoayam karmbandhanah.

Tadartha karm kaunteya muktasangah samaachar.

       Yagya ke ruup mein karm karana chahiye, anyatha karm ke dwaara is bhautik jagat mein bandhan utpanna hota hai. Atah hey kuntiputra phalakanksha se mukta hokar niyat karm karo. Is tarah tum bandhan se sada mukta rahoge.
       One should perform karm in the form of yagya, otherwise karm becomes cause of bondage in this materialistic world. Krishna directs Arjuna for doing his duty without expectation of result and tells him that in this manner he will always remain free from bonds.
      In a yagya we offer things to deities and thereby disown such things by burning them in the pious fire of yagya. In the same manner we are expected to offer our duties in the name of God and thus acts done by us will be sacrificed or disowned. Thereafter, question of expectations will not arise. When somebody disowns anything by way of gift then he loses right of any gain in return of it.
   Thus we see the theory of karma is based purely on logic and it can be exercised by any person whatsoever religion he follows. 

MY SILLY THOUGHTS

[1]

UNEXPRESSED THOUGHTS ARE LIKE STAGNATED WATER WHICH ALWAYS GETS POLLUTED. SO ALWAYS EXPRESS WHATEVER YOU THINK.

[2]

NEVER STOP A COMMUNICATION BECAUSE ONLY COMMUNICATION CAN BREAK THE SILENCE.

WHERE BATTLE IS WON BY QUITTING THE BATTLEFIELD

In this article, I am going to deal with quarrels and contentions which often take place in between two life partners.
In Hindi there is an old proverb “Chauke mein ek se jyaadaa bartan honge toh kabhi na kabhi toa khatenkeinge hi” (If there are more than one vessel in the kitchen, it is most likely that they occasionally will collide and make noise). This proverb is often referred to quarrel, anger or strife in between two life partners. After such incidents partners stop speaking to each other, sometimes for few hours and sometimes for several days. In some cases small contentions or quarrels lead even to dissociation of family relations.
Cause of anger is always associated with one of the following reasons:
(i) When we desire somebody to do something in a particular manner and we find that such person has-
· either not done such thing; or
· done such thing in undesired manner.
(ii) When we do not desire certain types of things from a person to be done but she/he does such things and we are hurt.
In each case, cause of anger can be attributed with our expectations and desires. In most of the cases, while forming or expressing our desire, we ignore the capacity and capability of the person from whom we expect something and due to this reason our desires remain unfulfilled. Student of I standard does not know beyond what is taught in I standard. Knowing this fact if we put a question based on the material which is taught in senior classes and expect from the student to give answer of the question then we will be wrong in our expectation. In this case our desire will not be fulfilled and that will become cause of our unhappiness leading to anger. A person may go on asking questions from a mad person who does not understand any thing. The mad person either will not answer the questions and will keep mum or will say some irrelevant things. This will again become cause of anger for the person putting questions before the mad man. What you will call the person who is putting questions before the mad man.
What I mean to say is that while forming or expressing our desires which are to be fulfilled by others, we should always take into account the capability and capacity of the person from whom we expect our desires to be fulfilled. In own case too, it equally applies. Our expectations should be based on our capabilities and capacities. When we expect a person to do something but she/he fails to do that, we can visualize following three circumstances:
(i) the person is incapable of doing that thing; or
(ii) the person may not get you what you want to be done by him; or
(iii) the person, because of any reason, does not think it proper to be done.
In my opinion, there should not be any cause of anger. Persons, of first category being ignorant, deserve sympathy. Persons of second category also cannot be blamed simply because they are unable to follow you. People often use phrase, “pardon me! I could not get you”. In this case, instead of getting irritated you always explain your view point. In third case too, person is not at fault because every person is expected to do whatever he thinks proper. Simply, other person should not be punished far having different opinion. Where you have asked to do something which is patently useful and proper also for the person who has been asked to do but the person even then refuses to do such thing because he does not consider it proper, then he can be included in persons of first category. Therefore, in this case also, there should be no cause for irritation or anger. But it is not possible unless a person is cool headed.
So far as it is related to cause of quarrels or contentions in between husband and wife, barring cases of quarrel or contention associated with planned exploitation of one partner by the other, in my opinion, in other cases the cause of quarrel or contention may be attributed to following main reasons:
(i) problem of ego satisfaction;
(ii) expectations;
(iii) misunderstanding;
(iv) wrong assessment due to difference of opinion or otherwise;
(v) wrong notions;
(vi) wrong acts related to emotions and feelings, unfair criticism of other’s close relatives or wrong doings of one of the partners which hurt feelings of other partner.
In first five cases, quarrel starts with dissatisfaction. A person forms a notion or draws a conclusion which in her or his opinion is undesirable. In the process, energy level within her/him increases. The person becomes tense. The increased energy results in burst out of anger. This energy is of destructive nature. Then the person expresses her/his anger in words to her/his partner. When one partner says something to the other and such other partner does not relish it then second partner gets irritated. Due to irritation he also reacts in anguish. First partner in order to prove his version reacts further and thereafter the second partner does the same thing. So the battle goes on and anger on both sides reaches to its climax. In the process, energy levels are increased. At this moment anything can happen including beating of an innocent child, manhandling, abusing or throwing of inanimate objects. Finally, process of quarrel ends in discontinuation of dialogue in between them. Energy levels which have been increased do not fall to normal levels and both people remain tense. Thereafter, their normal routine gets disturbed.
In first five cases, each of them claims to be right and nobody wants to be on lower side. In sixth case, the other partner’s feelings get hurt. In all cases, the contention continues till the start of normal dialogue between the partners. But when both partners are at 180 degree, (facing outwards) how dialogue can be initiated in between them, is a big problem.
How a couple can get rid of such quarrels or contentions? My first suggestion is that as far as it is possible, situations which give rise to such quarrels or contentions should be avoided. But always it is not possible. If we think on the origin of a quarrel, we are reminded of a Hindi proverb “Kabhi ek haath se taali nahin bajatee” (It takes two to make a quarrel). So my suggestion is that whenever quarrel starts, one partner should leave the battle field resulting in singling out of the other partner.
In the beginning, I also had to face the same problems. There had been a close friend of mine and he happened to be my neighbourer too. Me and my partner watched them continuously for three months and never found them quarreling to each other while during this period me and my partner had to discontinue dialogue between us once for a complete day. After three months, one day my friend invited us on dinner. After having our dinner with them, while having a cup of coffee, I asked my friend that how it had been possible for them to avoid anger and contentions between him and his wife. My friend and his wife smiled and looked at each other. Then my friend told me that they had entered into an agreement. They had taken a decision that when one of them would feel anger, the other partner would observe silence without speaking a single word. He reminded me that it needed two to make a quarrel and it was not possible for one to fight with him/herself for long time. After speaking two or three sentences she/he also gets cool. Then other partner starts speaking in normal manner as if nothing had happened. I liked the decision of my friend. So I decided to analyze the cause of anger and strife between the partners.
For first five situations, I framed a sentence ‘quarrel undesirable, must be avoided’. I abbreviated this sentence as “qumba”. We both discussed the plan and agreed that whenever one will feel anger, the other, instead of getting irritated will say the word qumba. She/he will repeat the word in response to every sentence of the partner who is angry. After this whenever the contention started in between us either due to misunderstanding or for any other such reason, instead of getting irritated, in reply I said qumba and smiled. My wife again said next sentence, then again instead of getting irritated, I again said qumba and again smiled. Three times this happened. After that my wife stopped and then said ‘kuchh bolate kyon nahin, yah qumba, qumba kyaa lagaa rakkhaa hai’ (What is this qumba qumba? Why you don’t say some thing). Then I said “yaar I am not in a mood to decide the issue right now, we will decide it later”. Thereafter, I stood up and walked a few steps. Then I asked her if she would like to have a cup of tea. She asked me if I wanted to have tea. I said yes. Then she prepared tea and we had our tea together. After that we both were so normal as if nothing had happened between us. Next time when I felt anger, she gave me the same treatment.
When feelings are hurt, it becomes a bit difficult to control the situation. One should try its level best to avoid such situations. However, if it had already happened then I would like to say that feelings can be healed or cured only by feelings. For this purpose, we decided that whenever such situation will arise, the offender will immediately tender his/her apology. She/he will say “sorry, very sorry, really I am sorry for hurting your feelings. I never intended to hurt you. I should not have said or done this”.
In Sanskrit it has been said “satyam bruaat priyam bruaat”. (Speak the truth which is sweet.) Further it has been said that one should not speak the truth which hurts somebody. So even if one partner has spoken the truth which has been a fact, it should have been avoided. Person, who speaks a truth which hurts other’s feelings, is guilty. That is why attention of a one eyed person is not drawn by addressing him one eyed and a blind person is not addressed by calling him blind. One should always remember the noble thought “Apologizing doesn't mean that you are wrong and the other is right, it means that you value the relationship more than your ego”. Also, when you don’t feel shyness in tendering apology before outsiders, then why you should be ashamed of saying sorry to your life partner. Apology should always be tendered in proper manner and by heart. In this case, after saying sorry, process of persuasion should also be adopted. We should not forget that gentle persuasion is more effective than force.
Sometimes we use another tactics. When I find that situación may go out of control, then I say to my partner “yaar tuma toh mujhe yon hi daante chali jaa rahi ho. Aakhir ko main bhee society kaa ek sammaanit vyakti hoon. So have some sympathy.”. (You are scolding me for nothing. After all I am also a respectable person of the society. I deserve for your sympathy). Then my partner cools down and says “daant kahaan rahi hoon, aapaki galatee hee toa aapako bataa rahee hoon”. Whenever I am in a angry mood, she gives me the same treatment.
I call this theory of mine as ABC theory. Alphabet A is used by me for avoiding the situation, B for bypassing the situation and C for conceding. I have been exercising this theory since a long time and have found it useful. Readers of this article may use their own abbreviations.
In the last I will like to point out that these are my original thoughts and hence wrong or incorrect inferences cannot be denied. Also some of my friends may find some thought incomplete. I also request the readers of this article to suggest their own ways to tackle the issue by leaving their comments. I will welcome those suggestions and will like to bring a revised post on the issue because I consider it a serious issue. If the issue continues in any family, the family cannot be happy and the issue may lead to severe consequences including loss of relationship.